When the Hardest Part is Your Brother
Tonight Sam and I were discussing best and worst parts of his day.
Mom: What is the hardest part of your day? ('Hardest' is a more acceptable word than worst.)
Sam: Oh, at school or home?
M: How about both. What was hardest at school and what was hardest at home?
S: Well, everything was good at school. But I hate it because Nathan is always out of control!
M: Oh. How was Nathan out of control?
S: He was screaming and screaming after dad put him to bed. It hurts my ears!
M: Ah. Well, he does scream loud. But I don't think he was out of control. I think it was a way of regulating himself, like you do with walking up and down the hall.
S: Well, it hurts my ears!
M: It sure it loud. I wonder how you could cope better. How about your ear protectors?
S: I could go to another part of the house.
M: That's a good idea. Or you could use earphones and listen to music.
S: I could do that.
M: So when Nathan screams in his room, he is actually self-calming. It's really loud. So you could use your ear protectors or headphones. Or you could go to another part of the house.
It was quite amazing really. A real conversation with my once nonverbal boy. Problem-solving. Willingness to accept another viewpoint. And bringing me a problem he was having.
Mom: What is the hardest part of your day? ('Hardest' is a more acceptable word than worst.)
Sam: Oh, at school or home?
M: How about both. What was hardest at school and what was hardest at home?
S: Well, everything was good at school. But I hate it because Nathan is always out of control!
M: Oh. How was Nathan out of control?
S: He was screaming and screaming after dad put him to bed. It hurts my ears!
M: Ah. Well, he does scream loud. But I don't think he was out of control. I think it was a way of regulating himself, like you do with walking up and down the hall.
S: Well, it hurts my ears!
M: It sure it loud. I wonder how you could cope better. How about your ear protectors?
S: I could go to another part of the house.
M: That's a good idea. Or you could use earphones and listen to music.
S: I could do that.
M: So when Nathan screams in his room, he is actually self-calming. It's really loud. So you could use your ear protectors or headphones. Or you could go to another part of the house.
It was quite amazing really. A real conversation with my once nonverbal boy. Problem-solving. Willingness to accept another viewpoint. And bringing me a problem he was having.
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