Emotional Control
Sam is grouchy tonight. Probably just being a teenager. But it brings up a problem he has had repeatedly - getting upset with a teacher or other authority figure because they made a mistake, or he assumes they made a mistake, and losing control when they refuse to correct themselves. As he inevitably insists they do. Hours can be lost to this. There are a host of reasons why he has trouble with this. - He needs adults to be right. When they are wrong, his stability is in jeopardy. How can he be safe, if adults don't know what they are doing? - Things have to be right, just they do. Information has to be correct. It is a rule. - He doesn't recognize his body signals that he is losing control, so the loss of control speeds down the rails until the inevitable crash occurs. And he can't get back into control for a long time, once a total loss has occurred. Negative emotion packs a powerful wallop and causes that tra...